Hi, I love this blog and this is my first time submitting off anon but this is just my two cents on dress codes because I think they’re pretty important, actually: My school has a very restrictive dress code for a public school, and the punishment is humiliating (long story short, it lets everyone know you’ve been dress coded and makes you stand out. it’s disgusting and having had it happen to me I was in tears).
The code itself is questionable (shoulders may not be exposed, for example [because they’re aren’t fucking billions of shoulders in this world, literally]) but all the rules apply to all the students. The major issue is how our dress code is carried out. I’ve never seen male students punished (again, it’s a very visible thing, being dress coded), and if they are, it’s for a hat violation — something that can come off without punishment.
The girls are the ones our administration watches. Last semester they literally sent Assistant Principals to the classrooms (some of which were male APs, by the way) to make girls stand in front of all their classmates and spot check hems. It’s disgusting and that is what’s wrong.
tl;dr Dress codes aren’t the issue. The way they’re enforced are.
I totally agree. In my school it was the opposite way. The most standout example I can remember is when the principal chastised a guy for wearing a sleeveless shirt… then within a minute (as the class was walking down the hall) she complimented a gal for her fancy sleeveless shirt. It definitely depends on how the rules are dealt with and can be worse for girls OR boys depending on the individual school.